No Neat Narrative: Finding Community Without Hiding

Without community, there is no liberation . . . but community must not mean a shedding of our differences, nor the pathetic pretense that these differences do not exist.”

Audre Lorde

I. I grew up in a nondenominational church with charismatic leanings and “clear doctrine on everything from Genesis to Maps & References.” The Sunday morning routine looked like this when I was younger:

Wake up approx. 7 am
Get washed and dressed
Attend Sunday school
Listen to the deacon’s devotional / call to worship before Sunday service
Spend approx 2 – 3 hours in Sunday service
Spend approx 1 hour in fellowship
Go out to eat

It was pretty much a full workday. Yet in those days, expectations were clear. You were united in what made you similar. It was a space with warmth and love. Yet, it was a space where right doctrine was prized over authenticity. So, it was a space I knew I had to leave if I ever hoped to grow further into myself.

This year, I’ve been doing a lot of processing around the intersections of my race, gender, and faith identities. So, I’m deeply appreciative and honored to have my writing featured over on The Mudroom today! Click here to read more about how I found deeper community relationships through showing my authentic self. 


  1. Love this article! Mostly because being raised in the church I can relate in so many ways! What’s interesting is now that I am finally comfortable with being my “authentic self” I feel I have an even greater connection with God.


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